And a She-Wolf After the Misogynistic Rant

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Beware of Misogynistic Psychologists

There’s a truly horrible 2,398 word screed about dangerous emasculating women at PsychCentral. It’s filled with stereotypes and self-contradictions, and the author freely admits that it’s anecdotal and non-scientific.

Why write such a piece?

Not getting enough retribution or decent incentives to keep me at it
I’m starting to feel just a little abused
Like a coffee machine in an office (aaa)

She Wolf
   ——Shakira

She Wolf (Shakira)

Oh, and you should know in advance that anyone (excuse me, any woman) who objects to the author’s position is “overreacting based on their own mistreatment and traumas.”

Beware of She-Wolves

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A woman becomes a she-wolf out of necessity to survive in the relational jungle of life. She feels that there is no other way to make it through life successfully. These women are not born that way and may have once been among the kindest of women. It took one or more major wounds to make her vicious. Anyone who has dealt with a wounded, bitter, and angry woman knows quite well how much harm she can inflict, especially to men. This is a she-wolf. She is a woman who has become a reactionary predator, just like the animal itself. Women who have become she-wolves need to be understood and have compassion towards them, yet that does not mean they stop being dangerous. Just like a wolf in the wild, they will destroy their prey and devour them should the opportunity arise. They should be considered from a distance, but not ignored, and with minimal exposure, as you would in the presence of a real animal predator. There are similar abusive predatory men but that would be a topic of another article.

I can’t read www.DrSam.tv‘s essay without a number of different songs coming to mind… perhaps he could have one of them autoplay on his website.

(Oh-oh, here she comes)
Watch out boy
She’ll chew you up
(Oh-oh, here she comes)
She’s a maneater

Maneater
   ——Hall & Oates

Dr. Sam continues, in a most extraordinary vein. Makes you wonder why he is projecting all this venom onto this dangerous “creature”.  Oh wait, Mommy issues… [NOTE: emphasis below is mine.]

I have endeavored to uncover, in a non-scientific way, what I consider typical traits of she-wolves. I have based these traits on anecdotal experiences (mine, as a therapist, and other’s) encountering these and watching them from a distance. They can be found in families as a mother, aunt, sister, daughter, and even a grandmother. They can be married, single, divorced, or widowed, heterosexual, or homosexual. They are in the corporate world and in the creative arts. If one is married to one or works for one, there is much pain received and often unnecessary abuse received from them. They typically go after men… but especially after strong confident men. Their attacks on these men come in the form of disrespect, talking down at, mistreatment, downgrading of position, leaving these men feeling castrated socially and emotionally. They tend to attract only weak and soft men whom they can totally control yet disdain. They wonder why they cannot attract men that will courageously protect and defend them. Emasculated men who have them as mothers or are married to them, can easily and secretly hate and resent them. Experienced strong men will see these dangerous “creatures” from afar and will avoid them, seeing them as dangerous. They will conclude that the relationship is simply not worth the trouble. God have mercy if she has a son. She will end up emasculating him. If he is an emotionally sensitive boy, he might learn that her mistreatment is reduced if he simply surrenders his manhood and conforms. If he chooses to save his masculine spirit, he may have to choose to metaphorically “kick her in the face” [NOTE: never physically, eh?] to get away from her and protect himself. She, no doubt, wonders why he spurns her love. Her version of love can be asphyxiating, controlling, enmeshed, and an impediment to becoming a self-assured man. Many strong men can work interdependently with women but it is impossible to do so with a she-wolf since she is highly insecure and cannot share power. I have endeavored to come up with some characteristics that will help identify and understand this kind of troubled woman. Surely some women reading this might be tempted to brand me as a patriarchal and “Machista” male, but they would be misinterpreting my position and possibly overreacting based on their own mistreatment and traumas. In some women’s minds, it is totally impossible to be a strong and confident male and still be a mature, loving, kind, and interdependent mate/lover/friend. They would be blindly projecting their own anger and their own absence of positive experiences instead of understanding this phenomena that proliferates in society and promoted in the media about women.

He then goes on to list 17 (seventeen!) characteristics of the She-Wolf.  Key words here are wounded, emasculating, angry, and narcissistic. Each of these appears at least five times. What we never explicitly learn is the type of “mortal wound” or “boundary violation” that results in such vicious behavior. I wonder.

There’s a she wolf in your closet,
Open up and set it free [wolf sound]
There’s a she wolf in your closet,
Let it out so it can breathe (inhales, exhales)

She Wolf
   ——Shakira

The She-Wolf goes after and degrades strong confident men… disrespecting them, mistreating them, leaving them feeling castrated. Yet strong confident men can tell these “creatures” are dangerous and will avoid them at all costs. Which is it?

I’ll leave you with one last song about She-Wolves, this one very enigmatic. But it makes more sense to me than Dr. Sam’s long-winded post.

And a She-Wolf After the War
   ——Throwing Muses

so it’s cowboys in flying colors riding home

leave my tears alone it’s too funny

it’s me and she spilling jewels and collarbones gray
(waste of time now I don’t want cold, lonely)

side by side … down the road
and a she-wolf (my face one more square)
don’t be afraid, it’s my road once more alone

I can see them riding over the hills
cowboy hats are back in,
this is the future (and this is your future) after the war
and I don’t eat anymore

it’s me and she spilling jewels and collarbones gray
(Frank Lloyd Wright, try to sleep under a dome under the sky)

side by side down the road
it’s my road, once more alone

as a warm gun
thanking her (she makes me dangerous)
blood on our teeth

ready?

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3 thoughts on “And a She-Wolf After the Misogynistic Rant

  1. Epic. Thanks for the great post and laughs. This was my favorite bit about the author’s bio:

    As a college professor, it is not uncommon to see him constantly with a group of students following him around the campus

    No doubt those weak willed men needing protection from the predatory women trailing their every move before cafeteria lunch time.

  2. Ha! Thanks for that, Emmy. Seems like the only thing he likes about being a college professor is this purported adulation from students. Otherwise, he wants no part of it.

    “As you know, when you write to academia, you have to write in the form that puts even the dead into further slumber. My goal is to pass information to the masses, hence I write in the most interesting form I can within my capabilities. I’m not trying to please academicians.”

    I can’t imagine any academic colleagues he may have are pleased with him, either.

    • I am that guy you ladies are “devouring.” Thanks for all the theories and projections. Am I projecting? I don’t doubt it. So are you ladies. Of course, you have license to do so. Not me. I’m a man. Nothing was said if a “She-wolf” female exists. Shakira seems to agree of such existence. A lady’s relentless anger towards men is considered “brilliant” and “full of insight.” Somehow when a man has that, he is thoroughly vilified and eaten up by angry ladies. Also, you ladies did not read all my article since I mentioned that there are very bad men also. You fail to mention that. I am tempted to wonder if the article is about you. Hmmmm… I wish you ladies a healthy, whole, and happy life. I would say the same to any man who is angry like you all.

      P.S. I get a kick and laugh from all your extrapolating about my academic life. That is not projecting, right? ;)

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